For example: One dude I work with was so hot for a chick on our team -- but I just couldn’t see the appeal. He kept saying, "She used to be a gymnast!" Like that was gonna help me see things his way. There was nothing wrong with her -- I just didn't share his enthusiasm. She was a short chick with a really, really big butt and a sunny disposition. I mean, she was cute. But something about her having been a gymnast blew his mind.

My point? There's no telling what detail will get a guy excited. But there's bound to be one. So stop assuming it's all about weight. Every woman is different -- blond, brunette, redhead -- by the time we throw in a couple of other variables, like ethnicity, breast size, wardrobe, taste in music, and a little thing called personality, the results become mind boggling.

Another time, I was standing with two guys at work -- one said that he really dug this girl (let's call her Jen). The other guy said, "Yeah, Jen's got a really slamming body, but there's something about her face that bugs me." Meanwhile, if they'd asked me, I'd have said that Jen did NOT have a good body at all -- but that she had a really beautiful face. So even from guy to guy, opinions are all over the map!

Bottom line: This is not a game to be won; it's really just about not beating yourself up for being who you are. What do you think -- is there such thing as someone being universally attractive? What traits turn you on?