We pretty much ironed out the flirtation wrinkles within the first six months of dating and have adhered to a similar structure ever since.

First, I guess it all boils down to how you define flirting. I happen to communicate (with everyone) in a manner that many would consider to be flirty. I'm a giggler for one thing, and a toucher for another. For some reason, I feel the need to punctuate everything I say with a tap, or okay, sometimes a shove (think Elaine on Seinfeld). Second, I think it's all about intention. A great dinner party, for example, can have oodles of flirty energy buzzing around -- just as long as it's shared with everyone -- and not between two people hunkered down at one end of the table.

But here's a confession: I'm a bit icier (read: way less touchy) when talking to a really attractive man, and if said man starts flirting with me, I become an absolute glacier. I guess I just have an automatic shutdown feature built in after all these years.

So here are two questions for you: 1. What's your rule of thumb: flirting or no flirting outside of your marriage? 2. How do you define flirting?